Family Politics...

not concerning me

but others...

we just been on an over night stay at a rellies house up in hartlepool and its been an eye opener to say the least

the amount of family drama that gets discussed is amazing. so and so did this and then his daughter did that with some next man who promptly dumped her after bedding her.

i was like wtf this happens to people who a somewhat distantly related to me?! amazing.

now a relly is all set to move to london for a girl. lovely? not really. he's declined several moves down to london for bettering his employment chances because he's too chilled out there. now he's hitting 31 and there's no rishta's left for him they've managed to find one from somewhere.

but the clause is hartlepool is too far away from the girls house in london so hence they're quite likely to move down south. things people do for a bit of rep eh?

my dad, god bless his soul, actually thought he was gay as he had refused alot of rishta's after agreeing to them initially.

he wanted to ask his dad aswell if he was gay too. the son - not the dad.

Connecting with your kids...

its a hard task isnt it?

its not easy thats for sure

and its not a one off thing. you gotta keep it up again and again and again. it doesnt take just one action

so today at work a father and his two kids, a girl and a boy. they walk over to the xbox 360 games and begin scouring for a game to buy. naturally the kids throw in their own choices, daddy what about this one? oh daddy this one looks good. dad what about this racing one? so on and so forth. so the dad's buying two games and he's busy doing his thing.

and then the girl makes a request. "daddy, can you buy me a remote too so that i can play with you and jake aswell?"

it was said with such a meek voice with the hope it would be accepted.

to me - and this is what it sounded like to me. it was almost as if she was hoping that the father and son activity would become a father, son and daughter thing. almost asking from the father to be given some attention. almost like asking to be given the chance to connect with her father somehow. asking for a way she could spend time with her father doing something they both enjoy.

in a way i can relate to this. its hard for a father to connect with his daughters. especially whilst they're young. the older girls can talk to their fathers and what not. but for a young girl and her father to connect can be quite awkward. it doesnt mean the father loves her any less than if she were a boy but it just means having to be interested in things that normally no guy would.

with mine its a case of maybe interesting them in some things that i do but end of the day free will is free will. and the dolls and the house house games have started to come, so participation sometimes isnt optional. so it can be hard for daughters to get the sorta attention they want from their fathers

its just a shame the reply from the father came as "not today we'll see later on"